Coach Berta had us write letters from age 100, looking back. One of my lines was that I was proud we gave away $100 million. Jana read it, her mouth dropped open, and she said: dude, you are living in dreamland. She was right. We had none of it. Here's what that sentence did anyway.

You throw the ball to somebody and then stand there waiting for them to throw it back. Locked in on one guy. And the whole time there are balls coming at you from every other direction, from people you never threw anything to. That's what took me a decade. Not learning to give. Learning to look up.

Most people who get out of a place like that measure the distance. Look how far I went. That's the whole scoreboard. Dolly ran the other number. Look how far I went and look what I sent back.