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"It's So Easy" Is a Red Flag
I keep my tools in a tissue box, so I was the wrong guy to hear "oh, it's so easy" about our boat engine. Why "easy" is a red flag, and the one question that fixes it.
Four Sentences to Repair a Relationship When You'd Rather Be Right
"When there's a disagreement, it's me planting my feet and wanting to be right. And I am right. I am right from my perspective and from my current level of understanding. That's my truth in the moment, until I can understand where you're right also."
Two accurate accounts of the same event, built from two different sets of information and two different nervous systems. There is no evidence either person can produce that will dissolve the other person's experience. So the argument has no exit. It only has an exhaustion point.