You did not fail to get what you wanted out of that meeting. You walked in without deciding what you wanted, then built the standard afterward out of everything you missed. Four questions to ask before instead of after. Because if you are playing hide and seek, know who you are looking for.

There is a Living Lucky® framework for this, and my mom ran it without knowing it had a name.

Vision comes first. Not a mood, not a general direction. A specific Point B you can say in one sentence. Most people can describe what they do not want in enormous detail and go vague the second you ask what they actually want. She got specific. Atlanta.

Agency is next, and it is the honest part. What are the obstacles, internal and external, and where do you have a choice you have been pretending you do not have. That is the question that ends most two-year holding patterns, because usually the choice was available the entire time and the waiting was the thing being chosen.

Momentum comes last, and it is the reward. Clearing the house. Listing it. Buying before selling. Each action creating evidence, and the evidence making the next action easier.

You have been feeding your life a destination and no starting location, and then wondering why no route appears.

Here’s Five questions that turn a vague goal into a real route, plus the honest inventory step that almost everyone skips.