The danger of the seven-year-plus mark is that you are intimately acquainted with the "Maintenance" of your relationship. You know the grit, the compromise, and the hard days. When you compare your Internal Reality to someone else’s External Edit, you are looking through a distorted lens.

Imagine a time when you had a family "pile-up" on the master bed or around a backyard fire pit when you could BE TOGETHER, smiling, and connected. Now take an objective look at how life might be moving in the moment. Are we busy being busy? Are we more connected to the calendar and the schedule than we are to each other?