“at some point, the Law of Habituation kicked in.

In psychology, habituation is the brain’s efficiency hack. It mutes the signal of anything that is "constant" to save energy for "threats." After seven, ten, or fifteen years, your brain has categorized your spouse as "permanent infrastructure." You’ve stopped seeing the masterpiece and started seeing “safety” and “comfort.”

You’ve moved from Awe to Maintenance. You don’t see the person; you see the "To-Do List" they represent: Did they pick up the milk? Did they move the laundry? Why are they breathing like that?

Most couples we talk to at Living Lucky® don’t have a "bad" marriage. They have a "Good" one. They have the house, the kids, and the retirement account. But "Good" is the sedative that keeps you from the Extraordinary.”